Archive for the 'Relationships' Category

• 2.11.06 "Chemistry & Reason in Dating" is posted in Best Of, Reflections, Relationships

A recently-single friend sent me an article from The Atlantic about online dating sites. Lori Gottlieb interviews the founders of eHarmony and quickly moves on to Chemistry.com, which was apparently started to find not just compatible people, but those who actually click:

On most of the other sites, there’s this notion of ‘fitness matching’: You may have the same goals, intelligence, good looks, political beliefs. But you can walk into a room, and every one of those boys might come from the same background, have the same level of intelligence, and so on, and maybe you’ll talk to three but won’t fall in love with any of them. And with the fourth one, you do. What creates that chemistry? (Dr. Helen Fisher)

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• 1.26.06 "Photos tell a story of another time…" is posted in Photos, Too, Reflections, Relationships

I’ve been sorting and deleting over 5000 photos…with the intent of getting down to the most meaningful or creative 1000 or so. It’s a difficult task for a number of reasons. First of all, it tells the tale of so much of your life…and you don’t want to move too fast. Second, some of those stories are from another time and it’s just a little emotional. And lastly, deciding which photos stay is choosing what to say goodbye to certain things.

Two years ago all the Kim pictures came down from the room… (more…)

• 6.24.05 "Be kind if you want him to like you." is posted in Rant, Reflections, Relationships

When I was 15 and traveling through Israel I had a number of debates about the topic of “universal politeness.” I remember arguing with Adam a lot about whether it’s necessary to try to empathize when someone gets hurt or to express gratitude when others do for you. He was against what he considered arbitrary kindness. I disagreed. From then on I’ve always been the one who offers “god bless you” from the other side of the room, because I think it really does make a difference. (more…)