Archive for the 'Friendship' Category

• 3.19.06 "Superstars are Real" is posted in Friendship, Reflections

Whether it’s the person behind the dais, the lead scorer on the field, or the one you just can’t seem to approach at the party…there are superstars everywhere. Maybe it’s the context where they’re a star, or maybe it’s just that people (cool people, no less) surround them, but when you’re on one side and they’re over there how can you deny their superiority?

Eventually you meet. Sometimes the stardom dissolves. More often they maintain that scintillating charm you envisioned from afar–so poised and so comfortable. It’s not like they have to impress you; why would they be nervous? Heck, they’re always on.

Or so the story goes. For a while. But then (more…)

• 2.6.06 "The friends who come and go from our lives" is posted in Best Of, Friendship, Reflections

This weekend I visited Andrew, who never ceases to impress me with his ambition and intensity. He’s one my most consistent friends, even though he’s on the other side of the country. On the way back from the trip I spent a couple hours on the phone with someone in another state who I can’t seem to stop talking to. And I returned to find a letter from an old friend who surprised me by saying goodbye.

In our twenties it seems like we cycle through people, (more…)

• 5.19.05 "When People Become Real" is posted in Friendship, Reflections

In any sort of relationship (friendship, work, romantic) it seems that there’s a point where people become more real: multi-dimensional, fallible, human. When we were younger it seemed like all of our friends knew everything about us. As time went on, fewer of our sides were as quickly disclosed–both out of convenience and choice. Still, when new people enter our lives there seems to be some time when they become more real…and then we either get closer or resist. After all, we’re not interested in everyone’s “problems”…nor do we wish to entrust them with ours. (more…)