Comments on: Luckiness in our overall perspective… http://www.dancingwithwords.com/2006/05/20/luckiness-in-our-overall-perspective/ Living the dance, dancing the life. Fri, 16 May 2008 06:58:33 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5 By: Jared Goralnick http://www.dancingwithwords.com/2006/05/20/luckiness-in-our-overall-perspective/#comment-296 Jared Goralnick Mon, 22 May 2006 13:59:58 +0000 http://www.dancingwithwords.com/2006/05/20/luckiness-in-our-overall-perspective/#comment-296 Hacah, you bring up a good point in questioning the lost friendship as an example of "luck." I suppose, as Chris brought up as well, it's somewhat arbitrary for what we accept responsibility and what we consider pure chance. I guess the thing for me is that my meeting Chris, and all of my housemates, was a fairly lucky chain of events for me. I mean, Chris, you're possibly my best example of luck. Many of the things I've done have followed a logical progression of "place yourself in a place conducive to x and x may follow" but with you it was just flat out crazy luck. For those of you who don't know, not only did Chris move in but he proceeded to paint and repair everything in the house I'd just purchased...and become one of my closest friends in the process. That example of luckiness is perhaps much more important than that of losing a friend. But the gist of all this is that things tend to work out for me and it affects how I live my life. I'm still curious how others feel their luck/karma/etc affects their day to day... Hacah, you bring up a good point in questioning the lost friendship as an example of “luck.” I suppose, as Chris brought up as well, it’s somewhat arbitrary for what we accept responsibility and what we consider pure chance.

I guess the thing for me is that my meeting Chris, and all of my housemates, was a fairly lucky chain of events for me. I mean, Chris, you’re possibly my best example of luck. Many of the things I’ve done have followed a logical progression of “place yourself in a place conducive to x and x may follow” but with you it was just flat out crazy luck. For those of you who don’t know, not only did Chris move in but he proceeded to paint and repair everything in the house I’d just purchased…and become one of my closest friends in the process.

That example of luckiness is perhaps much more important than that of losing a friend.

But the gist of all this is that things tend to work out for me and it affects how I live my life. I’m still curious how others feel their luck/karma/etc affects their day to day…

]]> By: hacah http://www.dancingwithwords.com/2006/05/20/luckiness-in-our-overall-perspective/#comment-287 hacah Mon, 22 May 2006 03:19:59 +0000 http://www.dancingwithwords.com/2006/05/20/luckiness-in-our-overall-perspective/#comment-287 I don't believe that you have had a "bad luck" event but I understand it is hurtful to lose a friendship, and it may feel that way. I hope you have learned from other friends (with more unfortunate life circumstances) that some negatives are necessary to help you develop as a person and appreciate the positives in one's life. I think that life is going to have ups and downs and it is the attitude in which you handle each situation that makes you a more whole person. I don’t believe that you have had a “bad luck” event but I understand it is hurtful to lose a friendship, and it may feel that way. I hope you have learned from other friends (with more unfortunate life circumstances) that some negatives are necessary to help you develop as a person and appreciate the positives in one’s life. I think that life is going to have ups and downs and it is the attitude in which you handle each situation that makes you a more whole person.

]]> By: -ben http://www.dancingwithwords.com/2006/05/20/luckiness-in-our-overall-perspective/#comment-275 -ben Sun, 21 May 2006 20:06:42 +0000 http://www.dancingwithwords.com/2006/05/20/luckiness-in-our-overall-perspective/#comment-275 Sorry to hear about the end of a relationship. It is difficult not to become more defensive, distrustful, even bitter after such experiences. Everyone deals with it differently: some find their level again after bouncing up and down with a few rebounds (a schoolmate's method), while others allow the natural process to run and let time take its course (mine). Whatever it may be, I try to learn from every experience: pleasant and unpleasant. Luck, guardian angel, karma, God, who knows? Sorry to hear about the end of a relationship. It is difficult not to become more defensive, distrustful, even bitter after such experiences. Everyone deals with it differently: some find their level again after bouncing up and down with a few rebounds (a schoolmate’s method), while others allow the natural process to run and let time take its course (mine). Whatever it may be, I try to learn from every experience: pleasant and unpleasant.

Luck, guardian angel, karma, God, who knows?

]]> By: Chris http://www.dancingwithwords.com/2006/05/20/luckiness-in-our-overall-perspective/#comment-266 Chris Sun, 21 May 2006 15:24:00 +0000 http://www.dancingwithwords.com/2006/05/20/luckiness-in-our-overall-perspective/#comment-266 First of all... deleterious? are you trying to hurt my brain? Second, you can look at luck as something (good or bad) happening to someone or you can look at it as something happening irregardless of someone and the person just happening to be the recipient of the luck at that time. Luck is really nothing more than randomness and a series of disconnected events that happen to coincide and manifest at the same time and place. As an example take a look at how you and I met. What were the chances that two cools dudes from MA would run into each other 445 miles away from home on the same day that one was looking for housemates and the other for someplace to live? To be honest with you that did put a positive spin on my experience in DC. I've been the recipient of both good and bad luck on numerous occasions and each time has been as random and unexpected as the previous.... meaning there's nothing I could've done to either stop or create the situation. So if you can't do anything about it (i.e. control your luck), then there is no use worrying about whether you're going to receive good or bad luck. And if you're not wasting your emotional energy thinking about whether something good or bad is going to happen to you then you have more time to focus on attaining your goals. I admit it's a simplified way of looking at it but no matter how you analyze it: spiritually (I'm a good person so I don't deserve all this bad luck), statistically (I've had so much bad luck, I’m bound to have some good luck soon), pessimistically (bad luck yesterday, bad luck today and probably bad luck tomorrow), karmically (I must've done something good/bad in a previous life to deserve all this good/bad luck), or realistically (the universe is NOT out to destroy me, sometimes bad things happen to good people and vice-versa). Does either good or bad luck have an effect on the way I look at my life? It can but I try not to let it affect me. I look at luck as being like a wave, it ebbs and flows. Sometimes it good and sometimes it's bad. Nobody wants to have either bad luck or good luck all the time, how boring would that be? Stuff that you can't control happens all the time...what you can control is how you perceive them and how you react to them. But seriously though.... deleterious? I had to look it up! First of all… deleterious? are you trying to hurt my brain?
Second, you can look at luck as something (good or bad) happening to someone or you can look at it as something happening irregardless of someone and the person just happening to be the recipient of the luck at that time. Luck is really nothing more than randomness and a series of disconnected events that happen to coincide and manifest at the same time and place.

As an example take a look at how you and I met. What were the chances that two cools dudes from MA would run into each other 445 miles away from home on the same day that one was looking for housemates and the other for someplace to live? To be honest with you that did put a positive spin on my experience in DC.

I’ve been the recipient of both good and bad luck on numerous occasions and each time has been as random and unexpected as the previous…. meaning there’s nothing I could’ve done to either stop or create the situation. So if you can’t do anything about it (i.e. control your luck), then there is no use worrying about whether you’re going to receive good or bad luck. And if you’re not wasting your emotional energy thinking about whether something good or bad is going to happen to you then you have more time to focus on attaining your goals.

I admit it’s a simplified way of looking at it but no matter how you analyze it: spiritually (I’m a good person so I don’t deserve all this bad luck), statistically (I’ve had so much bad luck, I’m bound to have some good luck soon), pessimistically (bad luck yesterday, bad luck today and probably bad luck tomorrow), karmically (I must’ve done something good/bad in a previous life to deserve all this good/bad luck), or realistically (the universe is NOT out to destroy me, sometimes bad things happen to good people and vice-versa).

Does either good or bad luck have an effect on the way I look at my life? It can but I try not to let it affect me. I look at luck as being like a wave, it ebbs and flows. Sometimes it good and sometimes it’s bad. Nobody wants to have either bad luck or good luck all the time, how boring would that be? Stuff that you can’t control happens all the time…what you can control is how you perceive them and how you react to them.

But seriously though…. deleterious? I had to look it up!

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