Archive for January, 2006

• 1.24.06 "Dating my mom…" is posted in Rant, Reflections

I think one of the unique things about significant others is that you can call or email each other twice without getting a response in between. With most people it’s customary to wait a week or two before calling a second time (unanswered)…you wouldn’t want to seem needy and you don’t want to annoy them. But with a girlfriend it’s okay to send them an email in the morning, to pick them up in the evening from work, and to call after you’ve dropped them off the moment they walk in the door. Or to just happen to call a few times a day, leaving a few voicemails. It’s a sign of affection. Sadly the most affectionate person in my life is my mom. (more…)

• 1.22.06 "Feeling Satisfaction" is posted in Reflections

I’m never going to be completely satisfied: there will always be something more to accomplish or a piece of life that feels vacant. But to me that’s just a healthy desire to do more, to grow, and to learn. In general, I think we all just have a few (slightly more than) basic needs to meet…and then the rest is just icing on the cake. Do you know what your areas are? Here’s what I need: (more…)

• 1.15.06 "Perfectionism in Practice" is posted in Reflections

Even if it’s possible to be a perfectionist, often it’s just not practical. I’ve spent much of my life trying to develop understandings of why things that are respected or enjoyed are respectable or enjoyable. But the more I understand the nuances of what makes something worthy of attention, the more I see just how much work is involved or how expensive things get. The fact is, there’s only so much that one can realistically expect to be best at, enjoy to the fullest capacity, or take advantage of on a regular basis. Perfection is often inaccessible. (more…)