Vehicles and Destinations

One of the trickiest and most elusive things in our lives is the line between the vehicles to and destinations of our desires. The typical example is money: money isn’t what we really want, it’s what we can do with the money that we want. Money is a vehicle, or a means to an end, but not an end in itself–a destination. Or is it? What about college degrees? What about relationships? What about particular jobs? What in our life is the goal and what a mere stepping stone?

Arguably everything we desire is just a means to our own pleasure. But I think we can take a step back and think about what it is we’re striving toward and whether it truly will fill our needs–our destinations. What’s the merit behind advanced degrees, for instance? Is it following a passion to the point of total immersion and deep comprehension and the feeling of being a skilled practitioner? Or is it a means to money which is a means to a house which is a means to…? Or, worse yet, is it just something we’ve always thought of as “necessary”…

I’m rather goal-oriented–I always have things to accomplish and I feel most comfortable when I make progress on them. But what if my goals are merely vehicles and not destinations? What if I’m hoping to have more of x so that I can accomplish and receive more x when in the end what I really want is y? And no, I’m not just referring to money. It’s about evaluating the things you do every day and the reason’s behind them. What is it that truly matters and is your list of goals actually getting you to those thing–be they a person, a hobby, or a passion, etc.

I say all this as quite a few gears have shifted in my life. Relationships, work, and possessions have all been in a strange flux lately. But the beauty and darkness of a flux is that it’s malleable. What does it really mean to succeed in work and life? What are the true destinations? I hope to figure that out. I really do…


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